Consent Vegan BDSM

Consent culture (Vegan BDSM pt 2)

Why Vegan BDSM? – veganism, feminism and kink part 2

Miss Pixie talks about the importance of consent in BDSM, and how it relates to the feminist and vegan perspectives.

Trigger warning – discusses rape

Consent culture

BDSM acknowledges that right and wrong are relational. What is “right” and “wrong” exists only as an agreement between you and me. So it can be ok for Paul to spank Peter because Peter and Paul have an agreement, but not ok for Lucy to spank Paul, because they do not have an agreement.

Sometimes, the person you want to make an agreement with does not have the ability to say yes or no. For example, you might be communicating with someone who does not speak English. They do not know the word for yes, or they do not understand what you asking. This is a situation where the other person cannot consent.

Similarly, there may be a time when the other person says yes but they do not fully understand the activities involved, or the physical or emotional consequences of what they are agreeing to. This is often referred to as informed consent. For example, a person agrees to have sex knowing that their partner has recently been tested for STI’s. However, what they do not know is that their partner has had sex with someone else after the STI test. This is another example in which the other person cannot consent.

It is interesting how closely aligned the kink community is to feminism and veganism on many aspects of consent; these three groups all have strong values around consent, though they arrive at the conversation from different angles. Both the feminist and kink communities place importance on learning about consent as a way of combating rape culture. The kink community takes consent very seriously since it is the only way to engage safely in any activity where a person might have their skin bruised or broken, or that simulates a non consensual activity such as rape or violence.

If you take consent seriously, its important to think about the instances where consent is impossible. If you extend this consideration to animals (as the vegan perspective does), you quickly realise that an animal cannot consent to having its body used for sexual play, clothing, or food. Since we cannot “speak animal”, there is no way for the animal to understand what we are asking of it. Similarly, even if somehow we were able to understand our animals, they do not have the capacity to understand the consequences of “saying yes”. The best we can do is guess at what their wishes would be – there’s scientific evidence that animals seek to avoid suffering, and if I were to put myself in the animals place, I would not be happy with my life being taken so that my skin could be used for sexual pleasure.

Thanks for reading.

In part 3 of ‘Why vegan BDSM?’, we will talk about Power and Privilege.

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About Stuniverse

Stuniverse is a very lucky person. He has been exploring kink and polyamoury for about 8 years, and both have dramatically changed his life for the better. A long time vegetarian, he made the happy leap to veganism at the beginning of 2014 and won't look back. Stuniverse is currently the driving force behind Ethical Kink, and brings a bunch of technical and business skills to the team. His interests and values include: feminism, ethics, personal development, meditation, veganism, activism, games, being a massive geek and writing about himself in the third person.

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